What it Means to Be Oppa, Unnie, Hyung, Noona (Older in Korea) – Seoulistic

What it Means to Be Oppa, Unnie, Hyung, Noona (Older in Korea)

– Oppa (오빠) = Older brother (used by females)
– Noona (누나) = Older sister (used by males)
– Hyung (형) = Older brother (used by males)
– Unnie (언니) = Older sister (used by females)
Depending on where you’re from, the saying “age is nothing but a number” might ring true. But in Korea, it’s a BIG number. Knowing someone’s age will instantly let people know where they stand on Korea’s hierarchical respect scale, which is very important in Korea. Once you know where you stand on the totem pole, you’ll know how to act, how to speak and how to listen.

Tip: To first understand this post properly, you’ll have to know your Korean age. Koreans calculate age by birth year (not the actual birthday). And this means even if you’re only 1 month older than someone, but born in a different year (i.e. December 1987 vs January 1988), you’re still considered older. Just think of January 1st as a line that isn’t crossed; you’re either on one side or the other.

Here’s what to expect once you’ve figured the other people’s age:


Same Age = Friend (친구)
Being the same age in Korea means you’re equals, and you’ll be instantly labeled a friend. It doesn’t matter if you’re a very unpleasant person, and the other person hates you. For people of the same age, the actual term used in Korean to refer to people of the same age is “friend” (친구 – chingu). And although most Koreans will use honorific language to show respect to people that they don’t know too well, many Koreans will drop the cumbersome honorific language and use casual Korean once they find out they’re the same age as you. And it’s not just language. Finding out that someone is the same age automatically makes Koreans a little more comfortable as there aren’t any expectations that are associated with being younger or older.

Tip: Dropping honorific language is common for younger Koreans. But the older you get, the less professional/mature you look by speaking casual Korean, even if you’re the same age.

Being Older (Oppa/Unnie/Hyung/Noona)
Since Korean culture is heavily influenced by Confucianism (some say more than China), being older, even by 1 year, automatically means you’ll be getting what Aretha Franklin wanted: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. That doesn’t mean you’ll be getting 90 degree bows (an ultimate sign of respect) from someone that’s only a few months younger than you. But you’re definitely higher up than the other person, and that generally means your opinions are more respected as you’re older and wiser (at least theoretically). So that means even if you’re 35 years old, jobless and in your mom’s basement for the last 7 years, it wouldn’t be right for your 21 year old tech start-up CEO cousin to give you advice. In Korea, it’s just not her place to tell you how to shape up. (That’s why things can get tricky when a boss is younger than his/her workers.)


Being Younger (Dongsaeng)
Being younger doesn’t mean you have to shut up and be quiet, however. Being younger has many perks. Because you’re younger in Korea, many older Koreans will generally feel the need to “take care” of you, which can mean a number of different things. If you’re hanging out with Koreans, an older Korean friend might feel the need to go out of his/her way to drive you home, even if you’re at the opposite end of the city. If you’re having a hard time at work, your older Korean coworker might feel the need to treat you out to a relaxing spa. Sometimes being cared for means you’ll be treated out to a meal. Being younger than everyone can be pretty awesome in Korea. But remember, you’re always older than other people too, so pay it forward.


When Age Doesn’t Matter (as much)
– Generally, the closer the age (+/- 1 to 3 years), the less these views hold true. You’ll still be older, but only by a little. And that means you’ll be close enough to be friends (chingu).
– The closer the relationship, the less age matters. If you’re very good friends with a younger/older Korean, a lot of the hierarchy goes out the window, and you just end up being friends.
– For business relationships, Koreans may try to be understanding of other cultures and will not put so much emphasis on age.
– The older you are, the less age matters. A 1 year age difference is huge for a teenager, but doesn’t mean much for a senior citizen.

Do you have your own experience with oppa/unnie/hyung/noona? Let us know by writing in the comments!

Keith Kim is a Korean-American who has been living in Korea for almost a decade. Being in a unique position as both a Korean and a non-Korean, he's put all his experience and knowledge for surviving in Korea in Survival Korean . Read it to learn how you can survive in Korea. Follow him on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram.


  1. Mik says:

    I like this guy he’s Korean but I’m not. He’s 22 and I’m 14 ( but 15 I think in Korea) Is it okay to date him?

  2. Asma says:

    What would you call your older brothers girlfriend/Fiancé if you were a boy? Noona ?

  3. N.Lee says:

    I’ve met and been talking to this guy daily for the past two months. Today he said that I can be his noona. What does this mean? Haha.

    • Justice says:

      When he said that it means that he thinks of you as his sister – Noona is honorifics for a younger man to call a woman older than him ‘sister’ (no matter how old she/you are – you may be 1 or two years older and he is close enough to you to call you noona. If you’re looking for a closer relationship, you may or may not (you were) friend/sibling zoned

  4. BlueLamp says:

    It means that he’s younger than you. Or it could be that he forgot his honorifics. It really could be either one, if you know his age and you know that he’s younger than you than he should call you noona, but if he’s older than you he calls you dongsaeng and you call him oppa

  5. Valerie Curl says:

    I’m a 71 year old grandmother. If I were to greet a Korean woman of similar age of similar status, how should I formally )to show respect) greet her?

  6. Marceline Willow says:

    If you were a twin but your twin was the opposite sex how would you greet them?

    • Yasmine says:

      Just by their name! You’re considered their 친구 🙂

    • Emma says:

      Koreans tend to switch it, sometimes the younger one will call them by their name and sometimes using Unnie, Oppa, Hyung, or Noona. That depends on which way round the genders are:
      If the younger is boy and older is girl, the younger calls her Noona
      but if the younger is girl and the older is boy then the younger calls him Oppa
      but you can switch depending on your mood. XD

  7. Laure-sana says:

    Hey j’ai pas bien compris comment je fais pour trouver l’âge que j’ai en Corée ? (J’ai 14 ans et ma date de naissance c’est février 2004.) Comment on fait ?

  8. Laure-sana says:

    Hey j’ai pas bien compris comment je fais pour trouver l’âge que j’aurai si je vais en Corée ****
    J’ai 14 ans (février 2004)

  9. Ryry says:

    I Am A Pilipino…

    I like a Korean guy And He is 21 in korean I think But I am 14 years Old In korean😊

    Can we became a couple?

  10. Annelise Palmer says:

    My boyfriend is 31 and I am 22. He always thinks it’s cute/endearing when I call him oppa (he is korean american, I’m just american). I have been trying to learn the language so I converse with his family and friends better, and I practice with him but he isn’t a great teacher. Does anyone have any recommendations on the best ways to learn korean?

    Also- what does one call the parents of one’s spouse? Trying to find a polite term I can call his parents in korean, if there is such a thing. Would I call his sister Noona as well?

    • Keith says:

      You can call his parents “어머니” and “아버지” which mean mother and father. This shows respect and is common even if they’re not your parents.

    • Min-seo says:

      I recommend lingo deer, duolingo, and/or drops

    • Scarlett says:

      If his sister is older than you, it would be Unnie

    • Soo Durney says:

      Hi download the talking translator app onto you’re phone. Go to play store and tap in talking translator, it free. Great way to converse and it helps you to pronounce everything too. Very easy to understand. Hope this helps

  11. Solehah says:

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  12. PLEASE ANSWER says:

    I just wanna ask something, I have a korean friend who was born in the same year as me. but we are born in different months. She’s older as she was born on February and I was born on May. But do I need to refer to her as Unnie? And do boys has to refer to the older men by months as Hyung? Or it doesn’t really matter as long as you were born in the same year?

  13. Estelle says:

    hey guys, sooo i met a boy that i like and he is korean but im not… he doesn’t speak english that well and i only speak a bit of korean. he’s now 22 and im 13…. when i first met him i thought he was really nice. we hang out and then he asked me to be his girlfriend… i really want to date him so i did some research on him just to make sure who he was. when i searched his name nothing came up… i immediately texted him why this happened, but he never answered… i showed my friend a photo of him and me, and then she told me about him… he still doesn’t know that i know what his real “identity” is…..
    what would you do in this situation? pls answer, im SO desperate!
    btw this first happened one month ago ish…

  14. btslover says:

    im in love with a 22 year old and his name is Jungkook lol

  15. GI says:

    Two sisters have a younger brother. What does the brother call the eldest sister and the other older sister closer in age to him?

  16. Jain says:

    I am serious I get word noona and oppa from couple pranks….

  17. Lisa Milner says:

    I’m 57, American Black and he is 54 Korean . We are becoming very close. He’s coming back to visit next month and he says he wants to ask me something important. How to address him as more than a friend?

  18. Arianna says:

    If im 21 and the guy i like is 31 would that be a big deal? (Its not a k-pop idol)

  19. Kashish juneja says:

    Thanks alot it really helped me as i am trying to learn korean and i am an indian so thanks alot .

  20. BTS ARMY says:

    I have a question. If you are the same age and you were old enough to where it’s immature to drop the honorifics would you call them chingu or would you call them by their name?

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